Ego and happiness are two conflicting content structures of our existence. The true self offers happiness through “being” the happiness. Ego demands happiness through superficial wanting and needing. Here is a short excerpt from “One Moment in Life” chapter seven.
“The constant need to have something or someone to make us happy is a side effect of the human path of life.
This is why our business world and the economy so often thrive. People are always looking for some object, possession, or person to fill a hole that cannot be filled. I am only speculating when I say that some eighty percent of what we want and buy is unneeded for our existence. The area of demand, want, and needless consumption in our human life is where the ego is very active. The ego is responsible for this gap in our human life that can’t be truly filled.The ego would have us “believe” that we will achieve truth and happiness through consumption.This is, of course, an ego-generated lie.
If the ego continues to dominate our human life, we will always experience this wanting, demanding need to consume. This is the human dilemma, the pathway determined by countless generations of human conditioning. The evidence of this human misconception can be seen everywhere.
We see that our next-door neighbor has a new car. An internal chain reaction then takes place. We feel several different and mostly conditioned emotions, most of which pull us away from true awareness of what is really happening.
We instantly have many different, mostly conflicting thoughts. Then the ego spontaneously takes control of these thoughts. It uses these preconditioned factors to place an illusion in our head. The ego may cause us to say, “How can the neighbor afford a new car?” The ego may tell us that the neighbor doesn’t deserve a new car, but “you” do. It may tell us that our human life will not be fulfilled and complete unless we also have a new car. The ego’s list of reasons why we must have a new car is long.
It wants us to truly feel that we won’t have any happiness until we buy a new car. The ego uses conditioned frustration, jealousy, and anger to validate our situation when, for whatever reason, we can’t buy a new car. This same pattern is true for many or most of the things that we eventually want. This may include any object as well as any situation involving another person. The need to have something or even someone is very strong. We will do almost anything to get what we think will fill up this demanding need and wanting that we have inside.
The human path has established itself as being generally difficult and full of despair. This path is, of course, of our own making. There are, however, some periods of apparent happiness, which are usually very short-lived and somehow empty. We are living in a society where having problems is expected. The periods of happiness are mostly overshadowed by the impending fear of something going wrong. We actually “believe” that problems, frustrations, and miseries are our normal state of being a human. We have been ego-manipulated into viewing happiness as something that we can only have when there is a reason to be happy. Why must we have a reason to be happy? Isn’t it enough just to be happy?
What I wish to convey is that the world of mankind has been seduced into a mental and physical pattern of first needing to receive something before we “believe” that we are happy.Would it be, or is it, so difficult to just be happy? Is it so impossible to be happy without having a reason to be happy? If we need a reason to be happy, then the happiness will surely be very short-lived. The reason to be happy is actually just an illusion.
You may argue that it is impossible to always be happy. When we are speaking only from the human realm of existence, I would tend to agree with you if you feel this way. What I am speaking about, though, is having a conscious connection with the oneness of life. This true happiness is not superficial. It is a core happiness. This happiness comes from the source of life. We could also use the word “tranquility” to express this form of happiness.
Feeling this may then allow us to more easily assess and accept the experiences of our human life. We could then find a balance in our human-oriented life. This would then permit us to see many human experiences as not really being so serious, which would automatically induce a sense of serenity and happiness. This state of serenity may be called freedom. We would automatically feel more space in our human situations and encounters.”